Caring for a loved one is a responsibility that can be infinitely rewarding, but it can take a toll – with stress, financial strain and emotional pressure. In general, it can be a challenging, often thankless task. Your patient may not be able to do basic things for themselves, such as get dressed, groom themselves, drive, prepare meals or clean their home. They may even be disabled. Whatever the circumstances, caregiving can come with a heavy burden that needs to be understood and managed.

Emotional strain

Many caregivers experience feelings of guilt, anxiety, burnout, and even depression, as they juggle the demands of caregiving with their own needs and responsibilities. Ignoring their own needs can lead to negative consequences that will not only have an impact on them, but also affect their ability to provide quality care to their loved ones.

Practical tips

Self-care is vital. This isn’t a selfish act. You can’t pour from an empty cup, and, by prioritising your own mental health, you’ll be better able to care for your charge.

  • Focus on what’s within your ability: It’s easy to feel helpless or to get frustrated that you can’t do more. But you should try to reasonably operate within your limits. Do your best, and be satisfied with that.
  • Follow a daily routine and set achievable goals: By doing this, you’ll be less likely to feel overwhelmed, and anxious that you should be doing more.
  • Set boundaries, where possible: Know your limits. Learn to say no when you need to. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. By doing this, you can avoid burnout.
  • Make time for yourself: Schedule periodic breaks to recharge, and enjoy activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
  • Connect with support systems: Reach out to friends, family or support groups for emotional support and understanding. Sharing your concerns and experiences with others who can relate can be very therapeutic.
  • Seek professional help: A therapist or counsellor can provide you with the tools you need to navigate the challenges of caregiving.
  • Be kind to yourself: You’ll probably make some mistakes from time to time. But treat yourself kindly, and allow yourself to celebrate the little successes you achieve.

Speaking to The New York Times, Rev Nicholas Sollom, a chaplain at Yale New Haven Hospital, recommends a useful daily practice: consider three challenging things that happened during the day. Allow your mind to process them. Then think about three things you’re grateful for. This can widen your perspective and allow you to maintain a healthy outlook that can ease the strain. It’ll allow you to approach caregiving with a renewed sense of purpose and resilience.

Make sure you get enough sleep; make sure you’re eating; make sure you’re staying hydrated,” he said. These can easily be overlooked and empty your cup unnecessarily.

Bottom line

Caregiving is a labour of love that requires immense dedication and sacrifice. While it can be challenging, it’s also a deeply meaningful and fulfilling role that allows you to make a positive impact on the life of someone you care about.

Written by LifeAssist