Whether you’re planning a vacation without the kids, or just taking half an hour alone to unwind, parental guilt often finds a way to creep in. Here are three gentle reminders to help you let go of this feeling and put your own wellbeing back on the priority list.

Guilt isn’t proof that you’re failing

Parental guilt can feel uncomfortable, and even unbearable at times, but it isn’t proof that you’re failing or neglecting your responsibilities as a parent. In fact, it’s usually a sign of how much you care. When guilt creeps in, acknowledge the feeling, but remind yourself that you are still entitled to take time for yourself. Loving your children doesn’t change the fact that you need space to recharge your own batteries.

You can’t pour from an empty cup

Children don’t need perfect parents, they need connection. When you’re completely exhausted, it’s incredibly hard to give them your patience, energy, and attention. But when you actively prioritize your own rest, self-care, and interests, you’ll be able to show up as the present, grounded, and engaged parent they love to be around.

When you prioritize your own needs, you model healthy behavior

When you’re always running on empty, you’re unknowingly teaching your children that it’s normal to live in a constant state of exhaustion. On the other hand, when children watch their parents practicing self-care and setting healthy boundaries, they learn a valuable lesson – that their own needs matter and are worth attending to.

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